Dating After Purity Culture

Learn to Date, Love, and Explore Without Shame

“Shame doesn’t disappear when ignored; it begins to seep.”
– Matthias Roberts, Beyond Shame

Move Past Shame & Fear Into Confident Exploration

Purity culture can harm us in numerous ways. It affects how we think about our bodies, pleasure, relational dynamics, marriage/singleness, and our self-worth. It can cause us to completely avoid dating, out of fear. It can cause us to recklessly jump into promiscuity, out of rebellion. Most of all, it can cause us to feel ashamed.

I help singles who have grown up in purity culture transform their love lives. Perhaps you are wrestling with your sexual ethics and are terrified of making a mistake you will regret. Perhaps you have little dating experience and feel overwhelmed when you try to engage. Perhaps you are no longer sure what you are looking for or have simply lost hope.

Post-purity culture dating can be difficult. Demoralizing. Discouraging. Daunting. But you don’t have to navigate the murky waters of dating alone.

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Own Your Journey

Shed the shame that can come from singleness, from sexuality, from missed opportunities, or from exploration that led to pain. Process and make sense of your dating journey. Own where you are and get clear on where you want to go.

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Reclaim Your Power

It’s easy to feel powerless to make your love life “happen.” But there is a lot you have agency over. Deepen your own wholeness to expand the possibilities of your dating world. Gain clearer vision so you recognize opportunities when they come to you. And learn tangible strategies for navigating tricky dating situations.

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Form New Sexual Ethics

Perhaps you no longer subscribe to purity culture, but now what? Experimenting in this area can feel particularly risky. Process your fears, get clear on your values, and build practices of resilience, so you can engage in intimacy in ways that feel congruent to you.

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Build Relationship Skills

Learn about your attachment style, conflict style, and communication patterns. Learn how to repair after conflict, communicate your needs, enforce boundaries, and engage in relationships from a place of self-love and wholeness rather than reactivity.

Hi, I'm Elizabeth

I am a biracial, tenderhearted healer and coach who is passionate about self-love, embodied empowerment, and breaking the stigma of singleness in the church. I am a spiritual abuse survivor with a Master’s of Divinity and a child of divorced parents who believes that owning our stories is the first step to redeeming them.

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What is Working with Elizabeth Like?

Coaching with me is not about quick answers or trite solutions, we go deep. We won't just stay in the theoretical, however, we will explore tangible tools and practices to help you move forward into change and growth. I pull from the wisdom of attachment theory, positive psychology, IFS, the Enneagram, somatic healing practices, theological study, trauma theory, and faith practices in my work.

From Elizabeth’s Coaching Clients:

“Elizabeth made me feel seen and heard without judgment. She offered a gentle approach with thoughtful inquiry. I always look forward to my sessions with Elizabeth. She is calm, confident, and a has a wonderful sense of humor. I trust her, and can be vulnerable during our sessions.”

– Katherine

“Elizabeth is an excellent listener who provides accountability and kind but encouraging guidance to help you visualize and accomplish the interpersonal objectives you have set for yourself. I was experiencing relational anxiety, and our session helped me make sense of the situation. Her friendly demeanor made it simple to open up and freely share.”
– M. Masinga

“Elizabeth is a careful listener and insightful thinker, who, in the space of a single session, led me to several revelations about what drives me and what scares me. She challenged me to revise detrimental narratives I’ve been telling myself and helped me identify specific and achievable goals to move my life toward peace and fulfillment.”
– Lucy T.

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